This has really been on my mind lately as I’ve talked to several other adoptive parents. ALL parents, really—but most of my group of friends that I talk with regularly have recently adopted.
A question for you—no matter your age, how long you’ve been married, whether or not you have any children. What creative ways have you found to ‘reinvent’ romance within your marriage in order to be sure that you’re protecting your marriage?
What’s that supposed to mean? Well, we all know that if two people don’t ever talk, they really don’t stay friends. If two people only know each other because they work together and the company closes, they have to find different ways to stay friends… or go their separate ways. When a husband and wife focus only on the daily tasks and raising their children, then there will be a day when you realize that you’re strangers and your ‘company’ has closed when your children no longer need you to focus on raising them.
Not only that, but a busy life will lead to burnout. We have 8 kids… we’re trying to avoid burnout! :) Finding time for each parent to have some down-time to not only spend with their spouse, but also just to seek their own interests as well gives us some time to rejuvenate and be ready again to face the day after a break.
Both of those things—spending time alone with your spouse and spending time on some of your own interests—are pretty difficult to do sometimes! Time, money, childcare, there are so many reasons that people can come up with that they don’t intentionally do these two things. And I strongly believe that that is setting them up for failure in their marriage.
What do you intentionally do to spend time with your spouse? What ways are you seeking some personal interests (not just “work”)? What ways do you find that these help you and your spouse? And what things come up to keep you from being able to do these?
I’ll share what we do in a future post, but wanted to put this one out there :)