We are grieving. Grieving because there seems little hope that Sasha will be ours. Sasha is not gone to us yet- there is one last thing we are trying- but if that doesn’t work than we will not be able to adopt Sasha. The good news is that there IS one more thing… it will not change the temperament of the director, but maybe his decision to support us or not. There is a call in to the SDA to intervene.
At the moment we do not have his permission or signature to adopt Sasha. His statement (translated) was that we CANNOT establish an “initial contact” with her because she is non-verbal. How can we know. My response? How can an infant know? Or a young toddler? But I wasn’t given the chance to ask. We will see what the SDA is able to do… and then we will take it one step at a time after that. PLEASE pray. Sasha is in a good place. She is cared for and well kept. She is happy and healthy. But she has no family, no REAL love, and her ability to grow and learn are very stunted in her placement. If we HAVE to walk away, we know she is ok. But we are praying that this will not be the case. She needs to come home.
I'm praying now!
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ReplyDeleteMeredith we ar praying that he has a change of heart as we would love to see her join your family. She looks happy with you both. I am sitting here wiping my eyes of tears for theis child that may never know the love of a true family, the joys of all the learning that can be offered to her. It is so sad. SHe is in our prayers.
ReplyDeleteI prayed for a change of heart, and for God's will to be done in this. Thinking of you this afternoon.
ReplyDeletePraying now (and crying).
ReplyDeleteMartha S.
prayers continuing from us....may God open this man's heart to see what this child needs is love that your family is so ready (and longing!)to give....in our thoughts and prayers- Cathy
ReplyDeleteCan you show him pictures of Brianna and any of the extented family who love her? Does he know about the other adoptions within the family? I wish I could talk to him. Hopefully God will speak to him loudly and soon. Mom
ReplyDeleteI am praying that this directors heart will be tenderized and changed. May this last effort be your way to Aleksa.
ReplyDeletePraying fervently through tears that she will go home with you, her family.
ReplyDeleteThe capriciousness of the system should not take another child from their family.
Praying, hoping, our hearts are with you.
Kris
How can anyone in their right mind believe that any institution, no matter how good, is better for this child than a forever family? I don't think this has anything to do with weather or not she would be "discriminated" against. I think this has to do with one man's opinion of a child with DS being adopted when there are other "normal" children who are waiting. Perhaps that "these children" should never have been made available for adoption in the first place, and he (sadly) has the right to control the situation.
ReplyDeleteDear Mike and Meredith, Remember that God is on the thrown. He alone is the author and finisher of our faith. In CDhrist alone place your trust. HIS will be done. In our prayers, Love The Bairs
ReplyDeleteOh Meredith, I am praying for you, for Mike, and for Sasha. I hope tomorrow brings joyous news for you..
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I am praying for you! WE HAD A SIMILAR THING HAPPEN TO US!!!! The old NAC gave us a referal but the judge rejected the adoption due to our son's heart condition. We fought and won on appeal. Family Code of Ukraine book will help. There is NO law preventing you from adoption. Our son is home but it took us 14 wks in Ukraine and going to appeals court. I know EXACTLY how you are greiving and please know that we are praying HARD for you!
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ReplyDeleteCornish family,
ReplyDeleteI just saw your blog and the problems you are having with the orphanage director. I'm not sure of how to help, but I thought I'd show you this website linked below which features the story of Daniil, a child with Down syndrome who was adopted from Ukraine and is living a very happy life, thriving with his family in the US. The story is in English and Russian at this website. Perhaps you can show it to the orphanage director in hopes of convincing him about the wonderful future that awaits your daughter in the US with her new family!
www.gdye.org
Wishing you all the best,
-Monica
monicab@life2orphans.org
I'm on pins and needles for you! I hope you have peace, whatever the decision. You are in our prayers.
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We are praying as well. I can't imagine how disappointing this is at this point.
ReplyDeleteContinuing to lift your family up in prayer. May your love for her and your desire to love her forever as part of your family be a reflection of the even greater love the Heavenly Father has for His children and the way that He has adopted us forever into His family. I'm praying when the director sees that love and knows God's eternal purpose for adoption, he will JOYFULLY allow her adoption.
ReplyDeletePraying like crazy.
ReplyDeleteMeredith, I can't help but think of the movie "Annie" right now. You and Mike are Aleksa's "Daddy Warbucks" and you WILL bring her home where she is meant to be. God has a plan, you know that. Praying for you always.
ReplyDeleteMy question to this director is: "will you always be the director and there to protect her" What if he changes jobs (maybe not that likely) and someone who is NOT so kind to children with Down Syndrome takes over. Who will protect her then? Will he hold her and comfort her when she is sick? etc, etc,etc
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you are having such difficulties. I'm praying for you.
Jan
RR friend
Meredith and Michael,
ReplyDeleteOur family is praying for you and for everyone involved in these important decisions. Thank you for keeping all of us updated. We know God has wonderful things planned for you and for Aleksa. We are praying that He will make those things clear to everyone involved and you will all be amazed at His plan when all is said and done.
Your faith is an inspiration. We pray that God will bring you comfort in times of discouragement.
Sincerely,
Lisa (RR) and family
Oh gosh, praying so hard that this last ditch effort works! She is such a sweetheart!! Please Dear God ... let them see the light!
ReplyDeleteI just came across your blog today, and wanted to let you know that you guys are in my prayers. We were just in Ukraine in November/December adopting our son, and I know how stressful it can be without having to deal with this difficulty. Continue to trust in the Lord and He will show you His plan.
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